Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Hayleigh was walking down the hall - alone. My husband and I are sitting in the living room. All of sudden, we hear Hayliegh say, "My dog ate my homework!" Huh?! First of all, No, she didn't. Second of all, it's Christmas break - you have no homework! We just laughed.
When we left the library yesterday, Deklan took a bookmark. He read it to me: Make the rule (it looked like a ruler), don't do drugs. He says, "You should make that your rule." I said, "Yeah, I only do the prescription drugs the doctor tells me to take. It's ok to take the drugs that the doctor tells you to take." He said, "yes, but we won't do other drugs." "I said that's right, we won't do drugs like marijuana, heroine, or cocaine." He said, "Yes, we won't do the cola drugs." Oops - too late! I'm already addicted to Coke!
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
by Cindy Waeltermann
Twas the Night Before Christmas
And all through the house
The creatures were stirring
Yes, even the mouse
We tried melatonin
And gave a hot bath
But the holiday jitters
They always distract
The children were finally
All nestled in bed
When nightmares of terror
Ran through my OWN head
Did I get the right gift
The right color
Would there be a tantrum
Or even, maybe, a smile?
Our relatives come
But they don't understand
The pleasure he gets
Just from flapping his hands.
"He needs discipline," they say
"Just a well-needed smack,
You must learn to parent..."
And on goes the attack
We smile and nod
Because we know deep inside
The argument is moot
Let them all take a side
We know what it's like
To live with the spectrum
The struggles and triumphs
But what they don't know
And what they don't see
Is the joy that we feel
He said "hello"
He ate something green!
He told his first lie!
He did not cause a scene!
He peed on the potty
Who cares if he's ten,
He stopped saying the same thing
Again and again!
Others don't realize
Just how we can cope
How we bravely hang on
At the end of our rope
But what they don't see
Is the joy we can't hide
When our children with autism
Make the tiniest stride
We may look at others
Without the problems we face
With jealousy, hatred
Or even distaste,
But what they don't know
Nor sometimes do we
Is that children with autism
We don't get excited
Over expensive things
We jump for joy
With the progress work brings
Children with autism
Try hard every day
That they make us proud
More than words can say.
They work even harder
Than you or I
To achieve something small
To reach a star in the sky
So to those who don't get it
Or can't get a clue
Take a walk in my shoes
And I'll assure you
That even 10 minutes
Into the walk
You'll look at me
With respect, even shock.
You will realize
What it is I go through
And the next time you judge
I can assure you
That you won't say a thing
You'll be quiet and learn,
Like the years that I did
When the tables were turned.......
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
'Oh Tom the Toad, Oh Tom the Toad
Why are you lying in the road?
Oh Tom the Toad, Oh Tom the Toad
Why are you lying in the road?
You did not see that car ahead
And you were flattened by the tread.
Oh Tom the Toad, Oh Tom the Toad
Why are you lying in the road?
Oh Kitty Cat, Oh Kitty Cat
Why does your tongue hang out like that?
Oh Kitty Cat, Oh Kitty Cat
Why does your tongue hang out like that?
You running from the mutts,
Then that truck spread out your guts.
Oh Kitty Cat, Oh Kitty Cat
Why does your tongue hang out like that?
Oh Fred the Fish, Oh Fred the Fish,
Why are you lying on the dish?
Oh Fred the Fish, Oh Fred the Fish,
Why are you lying on the dish?
You did not see the hook ahead,
And now your head is stuffed with bread.
Oh Fred the Fish, Oh Fred the Fish,
Why are you lying on the dish?
Oh Sue the Skunk, Oh Sue the Skunk,
Why do you make my tires go thunk?
Oh Sue the Skunk, Oh Sue the Skunk,
Why do you make my tires go thunk?
You did not look from East to West
Now on the road there's such a mess.
Oh Sue the Skunk, Oh Sue the Skunk,
Why do you make my tires go thunk?
Monday, December 15, 2008
Onto a different matter. While we were at the meeting Deklan brought up the subject of his playground. Apparantly there are a lot of trees/woods behind his playground. There is a fence to keep the students in the yard. Deklan is convinced that they are haunted. He's "seen" things. He went into complete detail with Shani - things I'd never heard him talk about. I knew he thought they were haunted; he's "seen" a stick move and no one around; he believes no animals live in the tree area. However, while talking on Friday he went into way more detail than that. Including a Demon Hunt club that he and a couple of others have formed. He's seen a black and white shadow floating through the trees. He's seen writing on the board in the classroom when the teacher hasn't been there. There were other things but I don't remember everything - I was just so blown away. Later, he looked up and said, "When I look at people I see demon faces." Shani asked if he saw a demon face when he looked at her. He said, "Well I don't always see them." I'm not sure what to do with him. I do have a plan of taking him back to the school and into the trees so he can see what's really back there. I just have wait for it to get warmer. We were too busy on Saturday and it was way too cold yesterday. Today it's only supposed to get to 20 degrees and it was 4 degrees when the kids went to school.
Saturday, December 13, 2008
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Next week - 8 days to be exact - is my youngest daughter's birthday. She turns 10. We haven't had a party for the girls in several years. This year I decided to have a party for them. We don't have a lot of money, and that's usually what keeps me from having one for them. But I found out that we could rent the community building for $20 plus a $50 refundable deposit. So, that's what I did. Their party is going to be after Christmas on the 27th. At first I wasn't too keen on that idea but then I thought... you know what it's right in the middle of Christmas break and the kids would love to see their friends during that time. Besides some of the parents might be ready to get rid of their children for a few hours after having them out of school for a week already. Anyway, that's what we're doing. Oldest is into skulls - I don't know why. So, this is the picture that I'm going to try to have put on her cake...
I also used this picture on her invitations. I bought some black and white designed 4x6 paper, fed those into the printer for the party information, printed out a sheet of skulls, cut and pasted them to the front of the invitations. The paper had different designs on them but here's her favorite.
I take my daughters to a therapist who has helped a great deal with the girls' tempers and understanding why they get so angry at times. Mostly they get mad at me for taking Deklan's side. Which I do not always do, but they don't understand that. Anyway, when we were in her office yesterday, Deklan wouldn't listen - he wanted to play with her toys and she wanted him to sit and listen to what she was telling the girls. He was so defiant. She used a restraint procedure on him. Basically she wrestled him to the floor, held his hands behind his back, and restrained his legs. It didn't hurt him at all - even though it was extremely tough to watch. In order to get up, he just had to comply with her rules. He didn't. We ended up, literally, carrying him to the car while he was kicking and screaming. She went back to session with the girls while I kept him in the car. I've never gone to the extreme she did with the restraint, but I do have to hold his hands and brace his feet to keep him from hitting and kicking me. I did this yesterday in the car too. The fit lasted the whole session - she walked the girls out to car when it was over and Deklan was still kicking and screaming. She felt the fit had nothing to do with autism. If that's the case then he's just being a brat and I have to figure out how to take care of it. If it's not the case and this is part of the autism then what do I do? The therapist (I think she's actually a psychologist) says he'll end up in trouble with the law if he keeps that up. So, again, here's my question... Is he playing me?
Well, we're back from our Thanksgiving trip. We went to Mom's for the holiday - she lives in Oklahoma. We also have Christmas with Mom on Thanksgiving because we can't get back there for it. We went on Tuesday; my brother and his wife came on Wednesday evening. Then my brother and his wife left on Saturday; we left on Sunday. Here's the thing... my brother is a bully. I know that sounds harsh, but it's true. He thinks he's a house-repair, car-fixing, macho guy. In other words, he's a male chauvinist pig. I really wish I were exaggerating - unfortunately I'm not. Don't get me wrong... I do love my brother and, when I need him, I can normally count on him. He and his wife have bought the kids school clothes for at least the last 4 years. They always give the kids good presents at Christmas and birthdays (probably too many presents). They paid for Oldest to go to camp last summer. So, at least when it comes to affording things, he’s not a bad guy. On the other hand... he always has to be right, he doesn't like the way my girls dress (refers to them as hookers if they wear tight or short clothes), he complains about everything, and these are probably his good qualities. Here are some examples from the past week. 1. My mother makes wonderful homemade sour dough rolls. The dough rose overnight on Wednesday and cooked on Thursday morning for dinner. On Friday Mom heated the leftover rolls for lunch. She put them in the oven to re-heat which made them a little harder than putting them in the microwave. No big deal to everyone except Brother. He made sure to point out that the rolls were a little hard, calling them a rock and hoping he didn't break his tooth. Everyone else was trying to be polite and they were still good, so why bother making a comment. 2. Brother gave my mom a BB gun for Christmas. Yes, that's what she wanted. She lives way out in the country and needed it to keep strays out of the trash. It's not really as bad as it sounds and it doesn't hurt that much. I should know... my brother shot me with it! I was talking to Mom in the living room and ping - he shot my arm. It left a little round bruise but it was ok. I just told him to please not do that again. He was like "Waah! It didn't even hurt you." Whatever, Brother. 3. My mother had an old Pepsi machine. It was the kind that you have to open the door and pull the handle to get the pop out of. She gave that to my brother and he was trying to load it into his truck. His wife said something to him and he just went off on her. "Just go away! I'll do this myself. I wasn't even talking to you... it wasn't even your business. I'm serious, just get out of here!" I felt really bad for Sis-in-law. 4. Here's my biggest complaint against my brother. Deklan was acting out. "He just needs a good spanking. If he were my kid he wouldn't act like that. You always give him what he wants... you don't treat the girls like that. When we were kids you know Dad wouldn't have put up with any of that. Autism or not, you just baby him too much."
When Deklan said he felt different and not happy, I actually believe that he got that emotion right. My brother doesn't give him any attention - except negative. He does give the girls attention. Especially Oldest, who is his favorite and everyone knows it.
Overall, our Thanksgiving went well and we came home on Sunday after. It was so cold. Oldest had rolled the window down part way on the way to Oklahoma. It stuck! Then when I was trying to fix it, I rolled it down more and then couldn’t get it fixed! We put plastic and duct tape over the window. The plastic was too thin and ripped before we got to town (did I mention Mom lives out in the country – 12 miles outside of town?). We stopped 3 times before I finally got to a small town with a dollar store. I bought one of those clear plastic paint drop cloths and more duct tape. We had the whole door wrapped and taped! Needless to say, it was kind of a loud (from the wind on plastic) and cold trip home to Kansas.
Friday, November 28, 2008
His second thought of the evening wasn't so easy to laugh off. He said, "Sometimes I feel different. Like I'm left out." I asked why he felt that way. He said, "I don't feel happy."
I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving. We're at my mom's for Thanksgiving break. That may be part of the reason for Deklan not feeling like everyone else, but I'll blog more about that next week.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Then he said, "How did you get in this chair?"
I said, "I just sat down."
He said, "So, you walked this way and sat down?"
When I said yes, he said, "Ok so go the same way to get out."
I think his patience wore off.
Saturday, November 22, 2008
"No, I trapped it in my bottom until I sat down."
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Deklan's ear is fine now. You can't imagine how tiny that piece of paper was. Here is a recreation, but not an exaggeration.
In perspective, This was taken on a small square pan. The second was taken on a folder.
Yes, it's the little white dot. The doctor used this little vaccuum to suck out the paper. It had a tip like he'd use to look in the ear or nose. It was kind of cool actually. Deklan didn't think so though. But he's fine now.
Since I was here last...
1. We had a Girl Scout camp out and haunted stroll. My troop girls, including Oldest daughter, had a blast. I came back with extremely sore feet and poison ivy. Still getting over the poison ivy.
2. My oldest daughter developed scabies. It's some sort of mite that gets under the skin. Not sure how she got it - she's the only one that has had it in our family. She did get a spider bite, but I'm not sure if that's how she got it or not.
3. Our Girl Scouts finished their fall candy and nut sales. YEA!!! I was the service unit manager for all 19 troops. We had audits last week and everything went well, for the most part. Today is my audit with the council and am hoping that goes well.
4. Deklan started his Boy Scout popcorn sales. By the way, you can log onto www.orderpopcorn.com, choose Shop without a key: Select council, choose KS: Wichita - Quivira, Go and shop! I'm shameless, I know! It's been hard getting him to sell this stuff. The good thing, besides selling to family, is that I volunteered to work one of the show and sell tables outside Wal-Mart so he did earn some credit.
5. Youngest daughter went with her Girl Scout troop to see High School Musical 3 and had a sleepover. She was so excited - she's still at the age where she doesn't get invited to many sleepovers. She's been to a few in the last few months so that's good. She's the middle child and I always feel like I'm neglecting her when I talk about the kids.
These are just some highlights from the past few weeks. I'll post some more later - I have to be somewhere in a few. I'll also post some photos - I finally got my camera to upload to the computer. YEA!!
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Does anyone have any idea what the ENT will actually do? The receptionist used the term that my "check in time" was at 1:15. That makes it sound more like a procedure than an exam which makes me a little nervous.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Now, the rest of the week was really not good. Monday started out ok but Deklan was a little cranky in the afternoon. Tuesday got worse. Deklan has homework that he does every afternoon - it's a math work sheet. He loves math, add to the fact that it takes him 5 minutes or less to actually do the sheet, and it's usually no problem getting him to do his homework. Tuesday he took his work sheet scribbled on it, crumpled it up, and said he was finished. I immediately called his teacher to find out if there was a problem at school. She couldn't think of anything that might have triggered him. Tuesday is always busy so I had to get my girls ready for Scouts, Deklan ready for Boy Scouts, and then I had a PTA meeting after Scouts. Deklan's bus driver is on the PTA with me - she's the President, I'm the VP. I asked her how he was when he got off the bus, thinking maybe he sat with someone that upset him. She said he sat by himself and he seemed fine when he got off the bus, even saying "Bye Mrs. Amy." (She loves that he always calls her Mrs. Amy and not Ms. Amy or Miss Amy - she thinks it sounds cute.) Anyway, I didn't know what to think. Had a hard time getting him to bed. Wednesday morning just got worse. He let me get him dressed but that was the end of his cooperation. He wouldn't eat; he wouldn't get his jacket on; he wouldn't take his back pack; he wouldn't walk to the bus stop. I walked him out to the bus stop - I don't usually do that because I'm not always presentable in the mornings. (He usually walks with his sister so it's not like I send him out to the wolves alone.) The bus gets there and he won't get on. I put him on, Mrs. Amy tries to help carry him on, but he isn't budging. There's a line of cars so I have to take Deklan off the steps of the bus and drive him to school. Actually, I had to go get officially dressed - going braless without my hair combed to school just didn't feel right. I guess either/or but not both - just kidding. Anyway, the only way I could get him in the school was to walk him in and then agree to stay in the class room for awhile. Luckily his teacher was just heading out of the office when I was signing in. She tried to get Deklan to go to his room with her but he wasn't letting me go for anything. By now I'm thinking that something must have happened but since he's not talking then who knows! On the way to his class room we stopped by the IR room - I have no idea what IR stands for but it's the equivalent of a special education room. I talked to the teacher and let her know that Deklan was having a bad day. I honestly haven't completely made up my mind about her but I'm leaning towards useless. Anyway, I told him I would sit at the back of the room but he had to sit in his desk just like normal. After about an hour or so I went in the hall to sit. I wanted to see if he would be alright or if he really would have a problem if I wasn't there. I didn't hear anything from him and checked on him before leaving - he was following along, sullenly, with his class, but no melt down. I felt extremely guilty when I left but he needs to be able to do this on his own and the school knows how to get a hold of me so I wasn't completely abandoning him. I called and checked on him at noon. He was doing fine. When he got home he went immediately into melt down mode - partially to guilt me I think.
"I didn't know where you went. I wanted you to stay with me all day."
"Well, you didn't tell the teacher you were upset. I stayed in the hall and waited to see if you even noticed - you didn't, by the way. And I called and checked on you and you were doing just fine or I would have come back."
Cue the alligator tears. He got crankier after that. Thursday morning he wouldn't get ready, he didn't eat, he didn't want to go. I told him that he had to go to school. They didn't have school on Friday because of in-service so Thursday was the last day of the school week. I also promised that I would go to his Halloween party at school. I will stay as long as the party lasts and, when it's over, I'll let him be a car rider. He agreed and did fine all day. Friday, not so good again. He was cranky - the sisters were cranky - I was cranky. I was going to take the kids to the pumpkin patch/corn maze but I had to have reservations to be added to a group already going through. We were going to go around 3 in the afternoon. At 1 1/2 - 2 hours I knew we were looking at a tiresome evening but figured the kids would enjoy it. Then I got a call from a good friend. She said her family was going to the movies to see Beverly Hills Chihuahua and would we like to go along. A couple of other friend's families were going too. We haven't been invited out with friends in a long time and thought it would be really nice to go. I asked the kids what they would rather do - I was not going to do both the pumpkin patch and the movie - I may be crazy but I'm not stupid. It was voted 2 to 1 for the movie. That's when my middle child decided that she wasn't important, we never listen to her, I don't love her, I don't care about her - you get the idea. The whole day was one frustration after another. Anyway, we went to the movie and had a great time - even middle child. Saturday was ok. Sunday I woke up with a terrible headache and stomach ache. We did our weekly cleaning - each child getting his own list of chores to complete. Deklan thought it was terrible that we made him help too.
"Can't you give me an easy job?"
"I did. Help your sister pickup YOUR toys in Sister's room and pick up the bags that fell under the table from the groceries. That's all you have to do - what could be easier?"
"That's so hard!"
"You take longer whining about it than actually doing it."
Bedtime was worse.
"I can't sleep alone."
"You sleep alone all the time."
"No, I need you to sleep with me."
"Uh... sleep with your sister."
"No, I need you to sleep with me."
"Fine. You go to sleep now and I'll be in later. I'll lay down with you for awhile but then I am going to my own bed or I won't sleep."
Cue the 5 a.m. scream in the dark.
"What is going on?!"
"You didn't sleep with me!"
"Yes, I did for a little while but you were already asleep."
"I want you to sleep with me."
"Deklan, I'll lay down for a few minutes but I'm tired, my head still hurts too and your bed is not comfy for mommy."
"I won't stop crying unless you sleep with me."
Do I hear blackmail in his voice?
"I will lay down for a few minutes but then I have to go to my own bed. I need to be in my room when the alarm goes off so I know when to get you and sissy up. My head hurts and I need to go to the bathroom so a few minutes is all you get."
"I won't stop crying unless you stay with me."
After a few minutes of him still arguing and not even trying to sleep, I got up and went to the bathroom. He screamed. Daddy got mad. I told daddy to put Deklan in my bed and I'd be there in a minute. Once I laid down with him, he was reasonably ok but still wouldn't settle down and go to sleep. Then it was time to get the kids up and guess who decided he was too tired to get up. That did NOT go over well with me or his daddy. Once he got up he did ok. He even helped get himself dressed while I swept the bathrooms and kitchen and mopped. He went to school in a great mood. I hope it keeps up. Anyway, that was my week. Sorry this was so long. When I get frustrated I don't blog like I should and the result is a 20 page blog. :)
Have a happy week!
Saturday, October 11, 2008
I actually got to spend the evening with my friends and then have the whole house to myself until the boys came home this morning. My oldest had a sleepover planned. My youngest daughter was going to go to a good friend's house while I played Bunko with the friend's mom and some of our other mutual friends. Oldest's plans fell through - her friend got grounded four hours before the scheduled sleepover. She was so upset; I felt so bad for her. So I called my friend's dad that was watching youngest daughter and asked if it would be ok if oldest came over too. He has girls both my girls' ages. It worked out wonderfully. When we got back from playing Bunko it was decided that the girls would just spend the night. OK Now what do I do with a house and dog all to myself? Just the usual. Computer, a little TV, reading, and bedtime around 1:30. It was just so quiet. Bunko, for those of you who have never played it, is really a fun little dice game. There were 12 players, split into tables of 4. At points in the game you switch partners and tables so you get a lot of interaction. We laughed so hard - I don't think I've had that much adult fun in ages. I've laughed hard with the kids and hubby but this was "girl" fun. I really enjoyed it. Hope they call me again to play.
Sunday, October 5, 2008
My schedule completely consists of nothing but kid stuff. I spend evenings doing Girl Scout activities, Boy Scout activities, PTA activities. During the day it's doctor appointments and case worker appointments. For example, my week this week consists of... Monday: P/T conference for youngest daughter, volunteering at youngest daughter's school for the book fair, Turning in fundraiser information to Scout leader for youngest daughter, and Girl Scout meeting for youngest daughter. Tuesday: P/T conference for Deklan, volunteering at Deklan's school for the book fair, Scout meeting for oldest daughter (I'm co-leader), Scout service unit meeting (I'm secretary and fall sales manager), Boy Scout meeting for Deklan. Wednesday: Behavioral therapy appointments for both daughters, Scout leadership training for me. Thursday: Wow! I'm free today - so far - oh wait, the kids are out of school today because of P/T conferences. Friday: Kids out of school today too, Service unit sales orders due to me from the other 17 troops so I can enter them in the computer, Boy Scout overnight - which daddy will hopefully do instead of me. Saturday: Still entering sales orders in computer and Scout Leaders overnight - includes more training and not all fun and games. Somewhere I fit in cleaning house, laundry, sewing on patches for uniforms, and grocery shopping. There is also football concessions at the middle school where I'm VP of PTA. I'm supposed to get volunteers to handle the concessions but it's really hard when the volunteers don't really want to volunteer. So I've been having the pleasure of working concessions in a hot, mosquito infested building with people I don't know.
Last week Deklan and I went to the BASIS meeting with the county developmental disability organization. We will have a case manager within 10 business days. Yeah! I'm not sure what that means but it's good news.
Friday night Deklan's Boy Scout troop helped with the flag at the high school football game. Actually the VFA (is that right?) put the flag up and all the little boys saluted while the anthem played. Deklan was so good - I even got a little teary.
I'll write more this week - I promise.
Friday, September 26, 2008
Tonight was my oldest daughter's first school dance. Awww! She went with a friend and met other friends there. My camera isn't downloading so I can't upload any photos but she looked cute. It was school attire so the clothes were normal. But she did wear makeup. I painted her nails, put on eye shadow, mascara, and blush. She looked so mature. She was excited to tell me that she was "party boyed" which means that a boy came up and danced around her. Not just any boys though - two 8th grade boys - one while she was dancing and one while she was just standing with friends.
Tonight was my son's first friend sleepover at our house. Didn't go quite as well as oldest dance. Things were fine - until bedtime. The little boy lives upstairs and, from the sounds some nights, he doesn't have a real bedtime. There are nights we hear the kids upstairs jumping and running after midnight. I've called the mom several times and asked her to please tell the boys not to jump because we're going to bed or my kids are already in bed. Little boy said his bedtime was 11:30 and I told him not at my house. He wasn't thrilled but was ok while they were playing. At 9:30 I told the kids bedtime. At 9:35 little boy decided he was going home. Fine with me except it broke Deklan's heart. I walked little boy home and came home to find Deklan crying his eyes out in bed. I tried to console him. Problem is I get really upset when I can't console the kids - it hurts my heart when I don't know how to make it better. So hubby did a really good thing - he took Deklan out of my arms and held him for nearly 30 minutes. I told Deklan that he could stay up just a little longer and color a sheet if he wanted to. After sitting in daddy's lap crying he finally decided that maybe he could color for a few minutes. He was back in bed before 10:30 so it wasn't too horrible. But that little boy will not be invited to spend the night again that's for sure.
So that's our night of firsts.
His response, "I had to sit on a bale of hay with the sun shining, I couldn't do anything, and it was HOT!"
"So, did you have fun?"
"It'll be better next year."
O... K... then.
Later that evening we went to the festival carnival in town. I was walking with Deklan when he stopped and looked at the sky. It was a very nice evening. But the sky was dark.
He said, "The sky must be busy tonight."
"The sky is busy? Why do you say that?"
"Because there's no stars and you can't see the moon either."
Thursday, September 25, 2008
Leave the following message on your post when you pass the award on to their chosen eight blogger buddies.
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So the eight blogs I chose to share this award with are:
Bobbi at Mixed Blessings
T at Send Chocolate
Casdock at Faces of Autism
Alexandra at Happy Hearts at Home
Jodi at Reimer Reason
Mara at Mama on the Edge
Mommazilla at www.tsblogs.com - cheaper than therapy
Jess at diary of a mom
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Also, more good news for Deklan. I'm friends with Deklan's bus driver. She's really great. Anyway, she asked me yesterday if there was anything he could bring on the bus with him to keep him occupied. She said he's not a problem just really antsy - a lot of stimulation on the bus. She suggested putting a few cars in his backpack and she'd allow him to play with them on the bus. This actually excited me. With having so much opposition from the school (psychologist to be exact) I love having a person from the school that I can use to help my case if I need to. It's great. It's the little things that make me happy. lol.
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Monday, September 15, 2008
*My son is the little boy that tells me twenty times a day that he loves me. My son is the little boy that can brighten my room just with his smile. My son is the little boy that makes me laugh every day just by being himself. My son is the little boy that I wouldn't change for all the money in the world. My son is the little boy that I love just the way he is.
I had to write an appeal today. I didn't know what to write. I put in a lot of the IEP and eval wording and quotes from teachers and staff. I referred to all the tests he's been administered since April 2007. Then I put in a paragraph (up until the *, the rest I just added) to describe Deklan, my son, to them.
Friday, September 12, 2008
I'm still excited.
Monday, September 8, 2008
He said, "Oooh, it's smooth and bumpy."
Daddy says, "You can't have it both ways. It's either smooth or bumpy."
Deklan says, "Well the bumps are smooth."
Thursday, September 4, 2008
I stuck out my bottom lip, batted my eyes, and gave him the puppy dog eyes.
He put his finger on my bottom lip, pushing it in, and said, "You can't beat me at this."
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
So Uncle said, "Kodi get a chair out of the Cougar."
Deklan came up to me and said, "Why is there a chair in the cooler?"
On the way home I was talking, using my fingers for punctuation. I used my finger and made a circle in the air. Oldest daughter started laughing and said that I made the "shape of a butt" with my finger. Ha, ha - ok. Later Deklan called Nana to tell her about dinner at Uncle's. When he was done he gave me the phone to talk to mom.
She said, "So... Deklan told me you shave your butt."
Friday, August 29, 2008
Thursday, August 28, 2008
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
Sunday, August 24, 2008
It was kind of fun. There were several characters there - Spinner the Squirrel (mascot), Diego, Bat Man (the "bat" boy), a pirate. Deklan especially like Bat Man because Deklan had brought his stuffed dog - Ace the Bat Dog, Batman's dog from the cartoon Krypto. Yes, Deklan had to bring Bat Dog - in case the fireworks were too much and he needed something to squeeze. (I swear those were his words.)
Deklan did very well. He didn't sit still or pay attention much to the game, but did well all the same - no meltdowns or freak outs. I would tell him about different things of the game - our team is up to bat, oh he missed and got a strike, he made it to second, we're pitching now, etc. At one point I said that our team was pitching.
Deklan said "I'm a good pitcher."
I said, "Really?"
"Yes. I know how to pitch. You put your right hand out, put the ball in your right hand, put the left hand on top - like a hand-ball sandwich."
"What if you're left handed? Can you put your left hand out first and the right hand on top?"
"No - it doesn't work that way."
Sorry lefties - you apparently are not allowed to be pitchers.
Anyway, when the fireworks started Deklan was sitting between hubby and me. Deklan leaned over and said, "Bat Dog needs to see this. Can you get him out of the bag to watch?"
Well I sure wouldn't want to stand in the way of Bat Dog seeing such a beautiful display of fireworks.
Friday, August 22, 2008
What did he have for lunch you ask...
He took a poptart and a juice box for lunch. Healthy, I know.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
He wanted a party soooo bad. He's never had one before - he's never asked before either. I didn't want him to be disappointed but we couldn't really afford a party. We always get cakes for the kids - that's just a given for them. So this year I bought some Transformer plates and napkins to look formal and then just invited all the neighbor kids, that were outside playing, in for cake and ice cream. No need for presents, just come in and eat cake. There were 6 kids plus my 3. Deklan was perfectly happy. Earlier I took mini cupcakes up to school so he could celebrate with his class.
Monday, August 18, 2008
"Well, I'm not sure I can make you a shirt with fresh meat, but let's see what we've got in the freezer." (Sarcasm is my strong point.)
"No, that shirt."
Oh.. he means the shirt that says, "I love fast food" and has a picture of a deer running. He saw that shirt and thought it was hilarious.
Sunday, August 17, 2008
"What did you say?"
"This is good?"
"Sweetie, where did you get that?"
"Yeah... that's a dog treat you're eating."
Who does that? Goes into someone else's house and just picks something up and starts eating? I know I'm a little strange and definitely not organized, but not even I leave snacks in the bathroom.
"I got to have milk at lunch."
"Yes, I even got to have chocolate milk yesterday. They make the best milk! ... And bar-b-cue sauce!"
Saturday, August 16, 2008
I asked Deklan if he got to play with Kevin - his friend from last year that we still have play dates with but is in a different class this year.
He said, "No, but this weird girl kept catching me and taking me to the swings. She doesn't get just one girl to help her, she gets like 14! But I escaped and she came back to get me."
I asked him who the girl was.
He said, "I don't know. She went to Head Start with me."
Oh my goodness! I know which girl he's talking about.
I asked, "Was it S?"
Then he asked me, "So what should I do?"
I told him to tell her that he doesn't like that game so please don't do that.
He said, "No, I don't like HER, not the game."
O..K.. Not sure what to say to that.
To his credit, she really is a weird little girl.
Thursday, August 14, 2008
Anyway, I was getting a myoview - pictures of the heart, similar to an ultrasound. I had to have an IV put in, dye put into the IV, wait an hour and then get the first set of pictures done. Then I had to wait again, have a treadmill test, more dye in the IV, the second set of pictures. Getting the pictures done were ok - this big machine circled around my chest while taking pictures every 30 seconds or so for either 11 (1st test) or 7 (2nd test) minutes. The hard part was holding my hands above my head and lying flat on my back when I'm not used it. The tests came out abnormal. I had a little chest pain (probably from walking 6 minutes on a steep incline, but whatever) so the doctor took me next door to the emergency room. There I sat for about 4 hours. It wasn't so bad. Because it was my heart - no I did not have a heart attack - there was a swarm of nurses on me immediately. IV set up (again), oxygen, EKG, heart monitor, you name it I had it. Then they gave me a local, baby aspirin, some nitro (yuck!), and then something to keep me from being sick to my stomach (yeah!). Anyway, after about 2 hours they decided to admit me, but I had to wait another couple for an available/clean room. They decided that I needed a heart cath. That's right - a heart cath.
"Don't worry." They said. "You won't remember anything." They said. They were wrong.
They went in through my right groin artery (femoral artery?). They did give me some good local that made me loopy for a few minutes. That was fun. Then it felt like a lot of pressure in my leg (inner leg where my leg bends). Oh yeah, it was a lot of pressure in my leg! When it was over they showed me some of the recorded film from the cath so I did get to see the dye shooting through my arteries. That was kind of cool. Then I was taken back to my room told not to move for the next 4 hours. Flat on my back and don't move for 4 hours?! That was hard to do. And because it was a major artery they put a 10 pound sand bag on my leg where the stitch is. Let me tell you, you haven't lived until you've been put flat on your back with a 10 pound sand bag on your leg and told not to move for 4 hours. Did I mention that by now it's nearly 5 p.m. and I hadn't eaten since 8:30 the night before. Yeah... I was beginning to get a little hungry.
Oh, you want to know the results? Well the doctors weren't really concerned. I only have 30% blockage in my left artery. No big deal. That's what they said anyway. Then they told me to go on a cardiac diet and sent me home - after nearly 6 hours. (Does anyone know if I should be worried and get a second opinion? Just kidding, I'll just need to watch my diet and exercise more than once a month.) I got to go home very close to 11 p.m. Since my husband had to work yesterday, I did call and let him know what was going on but didn't feel the need for him to leave work and come up to the hospital. He didn't come up to the hospital until nearly 7. Needless to say, he missed all the excitement because by the time he and the kids got there I was flat on my back and getting irritated that I couldn't move.
So I am home now. Extremely sore muscles in my leg and abdomen. I couldn't drive today - we had to leave one car at the hospital so I didn't have a car at home anyway. Moving very slowly, can't bend over, and can't drive. I sound like I'm 90.
Deklan had a hard time this morning. I thought he was going to have a meltdown before school. He wanted to, I could tell. I can't bend over or lift so he was having some issues with getting ready this morning. He seemed better this afternoon and hopefully tomorrow a.m. will be better for him.
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Yesterday while at the mall - yes we went to the mall - amazingly the dogs caught up with us. Deklan was a little concerned because his dogs were thirsty and we didn't have anything to drink. I asked him if, since they're imaginary, we could give them imaginary water. That would have been fine except, he forgot the imaginary water.
Today we met new pets... Liony the lion, Ollie the Octopus, and Horsey the horse. Liony met up with us at the eye doctor's. Ollie and Horsey on the way home. The funniest was when we met Ollie. Deklan said, "Oh no... Ollie the Octopus just inked that truck." Playing along I said, "I saw that, yuck. Tell Ollie not to ink my van." "Well he only inked the truck because all this traffic scares him." I told him that Ollie could get in the car and I would take him home. Only Ollie decided to ride on the top of the van instead. I told Deklan again to tell Ollie not to ink my van. Deklan said, "Well... he didn't ink your van, he peed on it." My oldest pointed out while laughing hysterically that I told him not to ink my van - not pee on it. Thank goodness Horsey just ran along side of us - no telling what he would have done!
Monday, August 4, 2008
A couple days ago the same neighbor boy came to the door and asked hubby if he could play inside. Hubby said Deklan didn't want to play. Neighbor said that was ok but could he come in and play with his (his own) cards anyway. Hubby was like NO.
Today neighbor boy comes to the door. Oldest daughter tells him Deklan doesn't want to play. Neighbor says, "Can I come in?" Daughter says, "No, Deklan doesn't want to play." Neighbor says, "I know but can I come in?" Daughter says, "No." Neighbor says, "Well, I'll ask my mom and she'll say I can come in." Daughter says, "Well it's my house." Neighbor says, "So if my mom says I can play inside then I can." Daughter says, "Whatever." He didn't come back this afternoon.
Sunday, August 3, 2008
Saturday, August 2, 2008
Let me tell you - going to the mall is not normally my cup of tea. In fact, we've lived here for two years and this is my first trip to the mall. Not because I don't mind a good shopping spree every now and then, but because we never have the money to do anything like that. Remember I'm a stay at home mom. That being said, my brother and sister-in-law always take my kids school shopping a couple times a year. So we called them up, told them about this night at the mall, and asked for some school clothes money - with the idea that we'd be able to shop for school clothes. Each child got $100 dollars to spend - well, I got $100 for my son since he wasn't there. They did have some ok sales - apparently not as impressive as last year, but ok.
My older daughter bought a couple of shirts - one cute and one is still up for debate on whether she can wear it to school, a couple pairs of earrings - that'll help keep her warm on those chilly school days, and candy - well what can I say about that, so did I. I asked her how much she spent and she said, "I don't know... under $50 though." Under $50?! For what she bought it should have been under $20. My younger daughter actually did pretty well. She got a pair of jeans, a pair of khaki-type pants, a cute shirt, and a pair of gym shoes. How much did she spend? $41. For my son we got a pair of Power Rangers tennis shoes and two pairs of jeans. I spent for him only $29. I'll go through the receipts later and figure out how much each child spent specifically so I know how much they have left to spend for school.
The girls had a great time though. Only one of ours actually slept. About 1 a.m. though she started feeling a little icky so that's understandable. Everyone was running around and having great fun. I, on the other hand, had my feet screaming "SIT DOWN!! DON'T STEP ON ME AGAIN!!" Unfortunately, I could only listen half the time because we were walking from one end of the mall to the other because of stores, sales, activities, tracking girls. Anyway, it was quite an experience. One I wouldn't trade because I got to have an experience with my daughters that a lot of people don't have.
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Saturday, July 26, 2008
Isn't that sweet?
Before that I was wearing lipstick and kissed him. He wiped the lipstick off and said, "I wipe the lipstick off but it just rubs the kiss in more."
Friday, July 25, 2008
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Anyway, Deklan just asked me, "You know you weren't a mommy yesterday, are you a mommy today?"
I said, "What do you want?"
He said, "Salt." (He was eating an apple.)
So I got up to get the salt and said, "What would you do if I weren't a mommy today?"
He said, "Ask somebody else to get the salt."
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
The last two nights both of my girls had sleepovers away from home. Deklan has been horrible to get to bed. Actually he was fine getting to bed - as long as it was my bed. I have to move him to a different bed in order for me to sleep. Right now he happens to be sleeping on the spare bed in my daughters' room. I put him to bed and he said he was thirsty. I got him something to drink but it wasn't right. Then it was right but he wasn't thirsty anymore. Then he was scared. Then he was... Last night I actually slept with him for nearly an hour - long enough to make sure he was really asleep. I already have a sleeping disorder and he is making me so frustrated. I was diagnosed with Circadian rythem sleep disorder last year. Basically, it's kind of like my internal clock is mixed up. Since I have kids home I can't sleep during the day all day. Sometimes I'm able to get in a nap. Anyway, when I do get sleepy I need to sleep right then, otherwise it's like I miss my opportunity and I become too tired to sleep. His night time fits have really irritated me. Not just at night either. All his fits are beginning to get to me. And he's started having accidents in his pants again. That really bothers me - he'll be 6 in a month and he'll start 1st grade before that.
Anyway, this afternoon I decided I was taking the day off from being a mommy. I told Deklan that I was not a mommy today. I told him that he could ask daddy for whatever he needed. He thought that was kind of funny. Later I told him to do something then said, "Well, if I were a mommy today I would tell you to do that."
He said, "Yeah, but you're not being a mommy today remember."
So am I the only person who ever just wanted to take a day off from their regular life?
He said, "I want to go to the doctor but don't let him cut my toe off ok."
Saturday, July 19, 2008
A good friend of mine and I were pregnant at the same time. My son is 6 weeks older than her daughter. Deklan and Kelsea have always been "boyfriend and girlfriend." Deklan is true to her. (I think Kelsea is a little more fickle - you know, out of sight out of mind kind of thing.) He has always said that Kelsea is his girlfriend and they are going to get married someday. I tried explaining that some things change as we get older. He doesn't believe it's so and I quit trying to convince him. Let's just cross that bridge if we ever come to it. Anyway, we found out that my friend is now pregnant with twins after nearly 5 years of trying. Our kids will be 6 in August and October. Anyway, I was telling them that "Aunt" was pregnant.
Deklan exclaims with sheer excitement, "Oh, you mean my girlfriend is going to be a sister!"
Friday, July 18, 2008
This picture was taken in Englewood, Colorado on the 4th of July.
This picture was taken as we were leaving Colorado and heading home to Kansas. Not sure exactly where we were at the time - somewhere along I-70. The view is actually a mirror view - I took the picture while looking in my driver's side mirror.
This was also taken on June 26th at the Garden City Zoo. This is the bottom of a man-made water fall. I liked the way the water looked - kind of like a small rushing river.
Also taken at the zoo. It's a picture of a dragon fly.
Thanks for letting me share.
My little bitty town.
We are finally home. We were in Aurora, Colorado - a suburb of Denver. We actually came back on Friday the 10th. We had enough of being away from home for so long. We weren't supposed to come back until early this past week but we were so ready to be home. We left about 3 in the afternoon and arrived home about 1 a.m. We used to live in Aurora before moving to Kansas. I didn't realize how much I really don't like Denver anymore. It takes all day to get somewhere just to spend 20 minutes before turning around and going back. Ok - maybe a slight exaggeration, but not much.
Things just didn't seem the same - I guess they never really are once a person moves away. I had one friend that really took the time to spend time with me. The rest just had to work me into their schedules - even though they were fully aware that the kids and I were going to be there. Granted we were gone for quite a few weeks and I was probably at my breaking point anyway, but I really don't know if I'll take my summer and visit them again. At least not next year. The important thing is that the kids and I enjoyed most of our time away. We took a couple of days and went to the mountains. I reconnected with a couple of friends that I really haven't seen since high school (1992). That was fun - awkward, but fun. Anyway, I'm back and I have a couple of "Deklanisms" to share with you.
We stayed with a friend that has a really nice, large house. I asked Deklan if he thought we should get a house like that. (I really have no intention of moving and love my apartment.) Anyway, here's his idea of what our next house should be.
1. It should be a flower painted house. (I'm not sure exactly what he has in mind but that scares me!)
2. It should have a gate for the backyard and should come with a dog run.
3. It should have so much dirt so we can plant flowers. (I don't have a green thumb by any means.)
4. It should come with 4 bedrooms so the dog can have her own room. I asked what about the girls (they currently share a room). He said, "Hmmm... you're right - only 3 bedrooms." (Apparently the girls don't need a room of their own and the dog can share with them.)
5. It should have 14 windows.
6. It should have 3 elevators because it should be 5 stories up and have 20 doors because there's only going to be 5 bathrooms. (I guess that's one bathroom per floor.)
7. Make it come with an Xbox and a Wii - only one of each though.
8. It should have 20 - no, 21 - clocks. (Can you tell I'm always running late?)
9. Make it come with a limo and more than $100 dollars and 2 comfy couches.
10. It should have 48 trash cans. (I asked, "You think we have a lot of trash?" He said, "Yeeaah!"
11. It should have pictures of "our band" on the wall. (Right now our band is Big and Rich.)
12. For the 3 bedrooms - 1 is big, 1 is medium, and another 1 is medium.
13. It should have 100 packs of pens and 100 cars - blue, but not toy cars. (100 packs of pens and I probably still couldn't find one when I needed it.)
14. He said, "What about let's buy furniture at Big Lots?" (Umm.. ok.)
15. A set of CD's - Rascal Flats, more Big and Rich (although I think we have all of their CD's) and "I don't know what else."
16. "How about it comes with food?" (I asked what kind of food.) Spaghetti, chicken noodle soup, asparagus (yes, he likes asparagus), chicken, green beans, peanut butter, jelly, bread to go with the peanut butter and jelly, bologna, and Miracle Whip.
17. It should have fly swatters and 28 lamps.
18. It should come with bottles and cups. Bottles like the ones with straws that don't come out and cups that you just suck (tip and sip cups). (He likes no-spill cups with lids.)
19. It should come with bones for the dog.
And, I swear this is really what he said...
20. Probably a replacement for Hayleigh - but not a monkey.
Monday, June 23, 2008
Just one before I go though.
This morning I was approaching an intersection in which I had the right of way. There was a car approaching a stop sign too fast on my right and I said, "you better stop buddy."
Deklan said, "I think some people don't know it's the law to stop."
I said, "Where'd you get so smart?"
He said, "Well I have memory stuff in my brain. I got a shirt in my brain and a house in my brain. Every time I buy something then that memory stuff goes to my brain. But when I sleep the people in my brain are not in there. The people in my brain have a store in there too. Sometimes when I'm sleeping the people go there."
Thursday, June 19, 2008
When Quinn was suggested, Deklan thought that was great. He said, "yeah, let's name her Quinn. That way when she goes nuts we can call her..."
Are you ready for this?
(For those of you that don't get it... Insane!)
While at Mom's, Mom said she'd cook hamburgers when we got home after a day of errands. I said, "Mmmm with cheese, ketchup, and pickle relish." Michealla said, "Relish is made from pickles?"
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Friday, June 13, 2008
Sunday, June 8, 2008
We went to McDonald's - kids' favorite place. Deklan decided he wanted Wendy's to eat. Actually he just wanted to go through Wendy's drive-thru but play at McDonald's. Of course he didn't decide this until I had already ordered our food. Then he started the melt down in the middle of McDonald's. He tried not to scream but started to pull on me. When Kodi tried to help he started screaming. I had the girls stay for the food while I went outside with Deklan. I couldn't get him to talk or look at me. He just kept saying Wendy's! I told him I'd get the girls and the food and we'd go. No, he wanted me to throw the food away and leave. NO WAY! I was not going to throw the food away. The girls finally came out but Deklan was not going to get into the van. He screamed and kicked. The people in the restaurant - going in and coming out - just looked at us like I was a horrible mom and Deklan was a horrible little boy. After, I don't know, maybe 1/2 hour-45 minutes he decided we should eat at McDonald's and reorder our food. Again, NO WAY! I still had the food. I didn't have the drinks because I just couldn't keep Deklan from grabbing them and spilling them. I thought his sisters were going to strangle him. We were out there for over an hour. I did get him settled down enough that he let me hold him but he still cried and screamed - he just quit kicking. I was tempted to call his dad from work to come help me, but I knew that wasn't really a realistic solution. Finally we basically shoved him into the car - Hayleigh held him while I pulled out. I felt awful. Unfortunately, I still had errands to run. I didn't have any groceries - not even pop or juice or milk. I stopped at the one store and he stood in the parking lot screaming about going back to McDonald's for 5 minutes. I finally just kept walking and he came along. He threw a fit for just a minute longer until he got to the pop isle. I drink Coke. The new 2-liter bottles have the olympics symbols and some colors. He stopped because he was fascinated by the bottles. When we left that store, I still had to go to Super Wal-Mart our grocery store of choice due to one-stop shopping when necessary. He was much better in that store. By the time we got home I was exhausted. I didn't want to do anything but cry. I didn't of course because that would just be senseless. Needless to say, nothing got cleaned up in the house either.
Thursday night it stormed. Actually we went to the store and got my daughter a tracfone that was on sale. I'm stupid - I should have just added her to our monthly plan; it probably would have been cheaper in the long run. Anyway, then we went to the t-mobile store because I wanted to get on a text messaging plan and upgrade my phone. As soon as we stopped it started pouring down rain. And the rain was cold! It was kind of fun running through the rain though. BTW I got a red Blackberry Pearl. It's kind of cool - a lot different than my regular little flip phone. Thank goodness that I had credit on my account or the phone would have cost me over $250.
Friday was good. Hubby was able to get the day off to go with us. We went to Hays, Ks to pick my "extra" girls. We had lunch with the kids and their mom. The kids were making up jokes and we were laughing and having a good time. Deklan sat at the end next to daddy and the other mom. He was so good. The older of the two girls, Michealla, is 14. Camrie is 9. Deklan has taken to Michealla so well. He already knew her - we're practically family anyway - but she is so good with him and he loves her.
Yesterday was spent at garage sales with the kids. We just had a really fun time.
Thursday, June 5, 2008
Anyway, we had a good time. The girls and I like to visit with Mom and she plays games with us. Our favorites are: Rummikub, Skip-Bo, Phase 10, and Give Me 5. When the kids aren't arguing we could play for hours. Mom lives alone though and she's always busy. Getting her to sit down is like telling a rabid dog not to foam at the mouth. I know I'm lazy but when I'm there I feel extremely lazy. She's just always busy. And she always says what a mess her house is and it's practically spotless. Please, let my house be that messy sometime. My husband would think I was extremely ill if he came home to a near spotless house. She felt bad because she only home-cooked a couple of meals for us. The rest of the time we had sandwiches or fruit or whatever. No problem for us, that's what we always do. I don't think I've planned a meal in months or even years maybe. Of course she spoils us rotten while we're there. She cooks the day before we leave and then sends leftovers home with us - broccoli/rice casserole, home-made sour dough rolls, ham ball, peanut butter balls, sometimes even an angel food cake. She gives the kids about $10 or $15 to spend while we're there. Her main shopping is the Super Wal-Mart in Poteau. Someone told my husband it used to be the Piggly Wiggly years ago before Wal-Mart came to town. There is a home town grocery store in Heavener but even with the price of gas it's cheaper to go 18 miles to Poteau. Anyway, we only went to Poteau once and that was for groceries when we first got there. We only went into Heavener twice - library/dollar store/goodwill on Thursday and church on Sunday. It was so hot and humid. My mother is on limited budget so she doesn't run the A/C unless she's absolutely dying - not to mention she thinks 85 degrees is on the cool side. :) I think she ran the A/C twice while we were there. When I say run it, I mean she left it on for somewhere between 20 minutes and an hour to cool the house down and then turned it off again. Thank God for ceiling fans. It was actually the humidity that killed me. When I got out of the shower - and they were pretty cool too - by the time I dried off I felt like I needed another shower.
I've already said I'm lazy and I know it. My mom agrees I think. I don't sleep well at night. Some nights when everyone thinks I'm asleep, I'm really just lying there. Because of that, I love to take naps whenever I get the chance. It doesn't really matter if I get a nap or not, I still don't sleep. In fact, sometimes I actually sleep better on the nights I've had a nap than on the ones where I skip it and make myself stay awake. Of course sometimes even my naps are half spent lying awake and thinking. I think my mom thinks I'm terrible for as much as I "sleep". If I lay down for a couple of hours she thinks I should be doing something. Actually, I just think she feels like she shouldn't nap because she should be doing something. Anyway, I always feel bad and try not to take naps when I'm there but I usually end up lying down for a little while anyway. Last week with the humidity and heat, I don't think I did anything at all. Played games with the kids and mom; helped mom hang up an American flag on her front porch; tried to keep my room fairly tidy - she hates messy rooms/unmade beds; tried not to be too lazy but I don't think it worked. I'm sure I drive her nuts and we're really loud when we're there. I always love seeing her but then I'm ready to be in my own house by the time we leave. I'm sure she's ready for her privacy to be returned. Yep, couldn't wait to finally have my computer time back. Now, I've been home a day and I already miss her. Even if she thinks I shouldn't nap. :)
Deklan only had 3 accidents - Yea!! Mom has a little plastic swimming pool that she picked up a few years ago for $5 or $10 when they were on sale. She put that in her front yard and let the kids run the hose in it. Deklan and Hayleigh loved it - Deklan more so though. He spent at least an hour everyday outside playing in the water. Usually more than an hour. The pool has a little slide and he'd climb up there and get on his knees and slide into the water. He thought it was great and had so much fun. We live in an apartment... I wonder how they'd feel about a kiddie pool?
Now my week has just begun. Today, I need to get the girls' extra bed cleaned off for company; need to get the van cleaned out after our trip; I would like to get my nails done; need to get a few groceries; need to straighten the house; need to pay bills. Because tomorrow our summer continues... I'm meeting a friend of mine from Colorado in Hays to pick up her daughters (14 and 9) to come stay a month with us. We'll be home all week next week. But then on the 13th we go back to Mom's for a few days because we need to be in Oklahoma on Sunday anyway for camp and mom hasn't seen these girls in nearly 6 years (they're almost like another set of grandkids to mom). We go to mom's on Friday, Sunday we go to Bartlesville (a couple hours from Mom) to drop Kodi at GS camp, all but Kodi go back to mom's until Wednesday at which time we will go pick Kodi up from GS camp and head home. The following Sunday we'll go to Garden City for another 3-day GS camp (each of my girls gets a 1/2-day day camp at the Lee Richardson zoo - I love that zoo. The other two girls and Deklan are just along for the ride so we'll get passes to the local swimming pool and do some stuff for them too. When we leave the zoo camp on the 25th, we'll be headed to Colorado. Visit with the in laws and friends, drop the two girls off with their mother, and spend a few weeks just hanging out. Once we come home from there, we are NOT leaving again. School starts a couple of weeks after that in early August so we'll need to rest and get ready for school anyway. Not to mention cramming in quite a few doctor's/dentist/opthamology appointments into the middle of the "at home" time. Not to mention trying to build my AVON business too.
Anyway, that's an update to what's been happening and will be happening in case you don't see me on here for awhile.
Hope you all have a great summer!